this choker is HOT! i walked out the door with it on and immediately started getting compliments. got to the club and heard it some more. now, everybody there had something LIKE it on (goth club) but nothing exactly like it. just awesome! it incorporates very well into love play, as well. i wear it with my naughty cop costume and it gives it some extra flare! it is a little heavy but not overly. i don't feel horribly weighted down with it on. it's great for the price - strong, with push button closures in the back. it will definitely last for a long time. BUY this!