Dear Laura:

My Name is T.J. and I need some real advice.
I've been with boyfriend for 2 years and I
stopped getting wet. Now he's been real
supportive and it's meant trying new things and
objects. (Safely) Now I have come off
the injection to see if that was the cause,
and it has made it a lot better but after a while
I go dry again. I Love my man and want things
to change. Can you help? Thanks.



Dear T.J.,
Babe, you are NOT alone. Sometimes women
NO MATTER HOW TURNED ON THEY ARE IN THEIR
HEADS, cannot lubricate. It's nothing to
be ashamed of and nothing to worry about.

Hey it happens to men too, they all
experience times when for no reason, they
are not able to maintain an erection and
it has nothing to do with WANTING to.

I'm glad your beau is supportive. He SHOULD
be - it's not like you're doing anything
on purpose!

So just relax and know there are options.

I would suggest checking at this short list,
as these can effect a woman's ability to become
"wet":

Different medications, like antihistamines.

The amount of alcohol consumed can affect you

If you smoke, it can hinder lubrication.

And lastly a lower level of estrogen.

You can talk to you doctor about the estrogen
levels and your medication.

But the great news is that there are AMAZING
PRODUCTS out there made just for women like
you, BECAUSE so many other women have the same
challenge.

It will only increase your pleasure, for the
BOTH of you.

I'd recommend water based with condoms, and
without condoms, oil based is fine.

Watch out for anything that has nonoxynol-9
in it. It was a cleaning solution and now, some
say that it helps with protecting you from HIV.
But the Center of Disease Control disagrees.
That and it tastes like the ass of the devil.
YUCK.

And I'd stay away from lubes with dyes and scents.

Our little pretty clitties are too damn sensitive
to have to worry about that stuff. I mean, who wants
to add a yeast infection on top of it, right?

You should try to get your pretty little paws on
one these products:

Liquid Silk - just as it sounds. This stuff is
awesome.It's a British product and it doesn't
get sticky. It's great for hand jobs and
intercourse but doesn't taste that great, so
I'd stay clear of using it with oral.

Very Private Intimate Moisturizer: An incredible
lubricant for women, made by a woman, in conjunction
with dermatologists and gynecologists. Lou
Paget, one of the leading Sex Therapists in the
states, counts this as one of the best products out
there.

And Sensura: - it's a great velvety lube
that's water based and is smooth as silk.
another winner in the sack.

ENJOY.