Hi, Hoping you can help. I have a great
relationship except in the bedroom. Well, he
is great but I suck. I am great at everything
except on top.

I can't seem to get a rhythm and he just ends
up pushing me over and jumping on top of me and
finishing. I need help and am not sure what to
do or who to ask but I know one thing is for
certain is that if I don't improve, there goes
our sex life and then well I don't see what else
matters with a male at our age.

I know he loves me and our two kids, I am 21
and he is 22. I want to make him happy the way
he does for me. PLEASE HELP ME.

Thank you kindly,

S.


OK. Great question. And I have a lot to say on the
subject.

First off, I think one of your biggest problems is
that YOU ARE SO WORRIED ABOUT PLEASING HIM, that it's
affecting your ability to enjoy the sex and to have
fun.

Girl on top is supposed to be one of the most
enjoyable positions for WOMEN.

Why?

Because YOU get to control the angle, the speed,
and the depth of penetration.

But what it sounds like is going on, is that you are
too worried about him, that you aren't really in the
moment.

It's like your a dancer, trying to learn new
steps and all you're doing is looking at your feet,
counting, "one, two, three, four.." stepping on your
partner's toes, BUT NOT LISTENING TO THE MUSIC.

And what's the music?

Your own body.

Stop trying to get HIS rhythm for a while and
FOCUS on yours. What feels good to YOU?

Then do THAT...

Because one of your biggest obstacles right now
is your own head. You don't BELIEVE that
you're good so you're "proving it that you're not".

You're screwing yourself instead of HIM!

So next time you climb on top of him, I want
you to think about how he feels inside you. I want
you to concentrate on where the tip of his
erection is hitting you and how that feels.

I want you to really FEEL how he feels inside
you, filling you up, and how if you move
closer to his face, or lean backwards, it
changes the sensations. Then even try facing
his feet and see if YOU like that better.

Use him to hold onto to pull and push, or
do little bounces up and down, whatever feels
good to YOU (see the pattern here?)

Two last things:

here's the SECRET that a lot of men won't
tell you about the girl on top position:

Some men like to use this position to LAST
LONGER, as it's not THE HOTTEST one for them.

Now, that's not to say that they don't love
it, because they do, but, if they love a
position TOO much, then they'll be done in 10
seconds!

So, changing to a position where they can last
longer is actually a way of helping you.

Weird, huh? I know, but trust me, A LOT of
men have told me that's their strategy. Then,
when they're ready to come, they'll move into
another position, like back to missionary or
doggie that affords them the ability to go
deeper and be in control of the speed.

So, don't take that personally.

One last thing:

You have got to STOP selling yourself short!

As I said in my last newsletter, a bigger
turn-off for men is insecurity. And you
need to cut yourself a big fat break.

He's damn lucky to have a hot chickie who's
not only the mother of his children, but is
working hard to keep him HARD.

The whole first section of my book is about
YOU and BECOMING MORE CONFIDENT in the sack,
which, I really think would help you conquer
some of these feelings...

Rock on, my little sex kitten.